MIRROR, MIRROR…
“The quieter you become the more you are able to hear”
Truth Moment!!
Yes, right off the bat no introduction!
I almost did not post this blog today (being Tuesday), I was cozy, watching episodes of Girlfriends after work on Netflix amazed by Joan's foolishness!
Sidebar: It is really interesting to watch these shows when you are older it holds a completely different context.
Aside from this distraction, I was feeling "meh" convincing myself it may or may not matter if I post this on Wednesday, “no one needs this right now”. Just as I was about to resign to my "feelings" I got convicted.
( LOL don't you just hate when that happens! URGH)
So clearly, someone needs this and that someone is probably me lool. As much as I write to share lessons learned, bouts of wisdom from experience, random thoughts and what I feel instructed to write, these posts are mirrors for me as well!
I have always had a love-hate relationship with writing because it was and is truly the place I am the most raw and honest with myself and sometimes that reflection is not easy to swallow. On these pages, I can be the most ugly, hurt, angry, disappointed, sad person I can be with no explanation to anyone but myself and God and accepted at that. On the flipside, I can be a dreamer, an architect building my dreams into reality one letter at a time. It is truly a beautiful process, this gift we called reflection, HOWEVER you would be surprised to see what else you may find on the page.
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In the age of social media and with the newest outlet CLUBHOUSE,
(This where I have to admit I am glad I got an iPhone because I would be missing out on the drama, gems, discussions and information on clubhouse and if you do need an invite I have a couple just email or DM me ;-) )
EVERYONE has an opinion. We all got something to say about everything. Some of things we got to say is pretty wild but I digress lol. We can "piggyback", " to add on" " one mic" all day long if we could. The one thing that I do notice about clubhouse for example is that, if you are not certain about your viewpoint you can be easily swayed. The problem with that is if you are not anchored in your belief, you end up taking the voices and opinions of others to be your truth. This should not be conflated with being open minded and learning from others and having the right to change your mind, but as the old adage goes, if you do not stand for something you fall for anything.
We have to discover the art of balancing the voices.
The impact this has beyond the screen is where these opinions and voices rest. Where they seep into your mind and start sowing seeds. Where they begin to calcify your heart, where they begin to limit what you can or can't do and determine who you are. Once in a while, even when we are busy writing in our journals, voice noting or recording a video for ourselves, we must ask,
Who is speaking into my life? Whose words are these a reflection of? Whose face is truly in the mirror that I am seeing? Is that my voice or my teacher who said I wouldn't amount to anything? Is it my voice or the friend who was secretly jealous and advised me out of her lack? Is it my voice or the ex partner that degraded me into nothing? Is it my voice or the family member who doubted my ability? Is it my voice or God's truth? And I Oop?
Too many opinions not enough truth.
More than ever, in today's society and climate, we need to develop a pattern of self reflection and self awareness. A pattern in which we can sit in the silence and weed out the noise. Where we can center ourselves and remove the veil from our eyes and see ourselves for who we are. Not what other's make us to be, not the validation from social media, not the critiques and not even the accolades. The core of who we are. Not for the sake of being "woke" but for the sanity of our souls, for the energy we put out, for the purpose in which we live and glorify God.
We need to ask ourselves, do these words that I keep circulating in my mind or write on the page hold weight or reflect what I believe? More importantly what do these words produce? Does it make me better even if it is harsh in the moment or does it have me spiraling in self doubt? Do these words comfort me to take action or enable me to be complacent? Do these words help me be accountable or let me just do whatever I want with no consequence? I know it is a lot of questions but my hope is that we begin to value what we hear and who we allow to speak in our lives.
My challenge for you this week is simple.
It is inspired by a close friend of mine whose therapist asked her to do the same and I absolutely loved it and implore you to participate. Take 15 mins ( more if you can), grab a piece of paper or open a new page of notes on your phone. On one side write what other people see you as good and bad. On the other side write how you see yourself; good and bad. Again not based on the opinions of others, your thoughts alone.
You will be surprised what list may be longer than the other. Possibly may incite you to spend a little more time with you asking yourself why you think this way.
Until next week!
XOXO
