DESERVING
“You are worth finding. Worth knowing. Worth loving. You are deserving of good things. ”
One of the things that truly holds us back is our perception of what belongs to us and quite frankly what we deserve.
Ever notice how hard it is to accept a compliment, or to put yourself out there or even be hopeful that you land in a particular position? It's like yehh that belongs to you but me? Nah like forget it.
Ladies and gentlemen….We need to CUT IT OUT!
SAY IT WITH ME... I DESERVE GOOD THINGS....I DESERVE TO LIVE A BLESSED LIFE.... I AM WORTHY OF JOY AND SPLENDOR.
Now this time around, I want you to go back and believe the words you just said and rehearse it a couple more times with conviction. We need to renew our minds to believe that we deserve the best in life whatever our "best" is supposed to look like.
This week I've been watching the tv series "All American". I've been really digging this show and of course I'm late to the party in watching it lol allow me please!
Though it highlights the very real struggles of being a black man or woman in society, there is also a very consistent theme in which people of colour automatically believe they do not deserve more in life and the moment they reach out for more they are either leaving others behind, feel they are better than others or believe it is too good to be true that they begin to battle internally with accepting the good that occurs in their life without apology.
We see it now with the rise of channels and influencers highlighting black luxury and making it ok to want more for oneself.
The question is why do we inherently believe so little of ourselves? Are we truly so accustom to struggle and bad things that it is that unrealistic to hope for more? And more importantly what is the true impact of this type of thought process in our lives?
While there are various layers to this from colonialization, false humility, bad doctrine and philosophies being preached, I'm going to focus in on SELF SABATOGE and DISAPPOINTMENT
Quite simply, Self sabotage is defined as the behaviours and thought patterns that hold you back and prevent you from your goals or objectives. In essence it pokes a hole in the reservoir that contains hope and faith and develops an unrealistic picture of self. As a result, we practically eliminate ourselves from opportunities, overlook possibilities and what is worse we SETTLE! We settle for the lies, settle for the bad relationships, settle for the mistreatment of friends and co workers, settle to be underpaid, unappreciated and taken advantage of. What is worse is that WE teach others to treat us in this way and spread this teaching to the next generation.
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Self sabotage deprives you from the live you deserve but disappointment that settles in your heart and spirit is deadly. It will stifle your ability to grow, move or even try, leaving us much worse than when we were disappointed initially. We dismiss help or advice from people who really mean well for us. Spiritually, it generates a self sufficiency that prevents God from doing His thing… which is leading. You being the clay and Him being the potter. I've lived in the land of disappointment and hurt long enough to know that it strips and breaks you down. Its fuel for a moment but nothing more.
The truth is you are deserving of more than what you are living and convincing yourself right now. That means grabbing a hold of joy, peace and contentment. It means grabbing a hold of that work opportunity, creative project or business prospect. It means going on that trip, getting that bag luxury or not, enjoying the everyday moments
It is believing what God's word says about you, that you are the head and not the tail, that you are fearfully and wonderfully made, that nothing can separate you from His love, that you are important and beloved, that you are no longer desolate but fruitful! That you are here on purpose and not a mistake!
